“the baby years are short, kind of like 5 minutes…underwater”

I’m blogging this for two reasons:

1. You NEED to read this.

2. I want to have it saved somewhere so I can read it again in 17 years and laugh and cry all over again.


I Wish Someone Would’ve Warned Me About These BIG FEELINGS | TODAY.com.


<3, sam


The huz and I have a really great problem to have. We love both of our families a lot. like, really, really a lot.

And we typically can only go see one of them for the holidays and only for one holiday at that. Which is hard because we want to see our families all the time.

Mt Gran and #cavebaby

My Gran and #cavebaby

My family is in the PNW and his is in New England, so we can only pick one each year.

#gohawks #gopats

More often than not we are not able to travel home for Thanksgiving. So, we started inviting friends over for T-giving a few years ago. A #Friendsgiving if you will.

#Friendsgiving is something I look forward to now, instead of being sad that I cannot be with family. What a gift to gather with friends who cannot be with family and celebrate, overeat and be thankful together.

Getting the serving dishes ready.

Getting the serving dishes ready.

This year several friends are coming over. I am cooking a turkey, something that still scares me. A 23lb. turkey. But, I am excited for the parade, for food, for my baby’s first celebration, for more food, some football, putting on some old maternity pants and eating more food.

I made my Gran’s Cornbread Dressing today. I love a great family recipe. Of course, she makes it the best, but it is a decent attempt at a taste of home when I can’t be with her on Thanksgiving.

My Gran's DELISH Cornbread Dressing

My Gran’s DELISH Cornbread Dressing

Requirements for #Friendsgiving:

  1. Everyone has a dish (whether they make it or they give me the recipe and I make it) that is their fave dish from childhood. Something delicious and nostalgic. Nostalgia is delicious to me.
  2. TONS of leftovers. Because doesn’t everyone want to take leftovers home?
  3. We watch the parade (if you’re over in the morning) and we watch football all afternoon (#GOHAWKS)

So, remember to be thankful, whoever you’re with and wherever you are. There is always a bright side. Look for it this holiday season. Happy Thanksgiving!

p.s. Don’t get caught in a Yam/Potato landslide at the grocery store. Excessive Safeway? I think so.



Traveling with a baby

I got a lot of advice about parenting and caring for an infant. There are SO many opinions and everyone seems intrinsically tied to their opinions as if their very life or their child’s life depends on it. I can see how we got here, well, at least I have a theory. We live in a country and time in which we are told that we are the best and that how we view the world is the best and really the best and only way to live – even though expressing that out loud is also considered rude and intolerant if you refuse to validate another person’s view/opinion. We are simultaneously expected to accept and tolerate and cheer for everyone else’s views as if they are just as right as our own. This makes the best of us go cuckoo.


Back to parenting and off my soapbox – I know lot’s of great kids and adults that were raised in very different ways. But, there is one area in which I feel like I should share the advice I have been given. Traveling with a baby.


This advice comes from men and women who’ve traveled all over the world with all types of babies. Take it or leave it, but in my “HUMBLE” opinion – take it.


  1. Wear your baby through security and when boarding the flight. Have you ever worn your baby? I highly recommend getting something to wear him/her in. It is useful at the grocery store, walking to get the mail, walking your dog and I bet it’ll come in handy when I have two babies and need to keep the second one close as I chase the first one around. It has already been a lifesaver when going through security at the airport and also when boarding the plane. I have several and it is totally a personal preference thing, but I really like the Solly Wrap for traveling. This is just like the Moby wrap, but a thinner/lighter and softer fabric. You can throw it in your diaper bag or purse when not using it. When traveling alone, wearing #cavebaby has been a necessity. Folding your stroller and getting it on the conveyor belt would be tricky without it.
  2. Make sure you nurse or feed your baby on take-off and landing. This helps his/her ears pop and acclimate to the elevation change. I typically wait a few minutes after take-off, when my ears start to feel the pressure. It seems we always ascend and descend much slower than it takes my baby to eat so I have to be a little strategic.
  3. Without fail, my son has a HUGE bowel movement (I’m talking poop all over him, all over his clothes, all over the blanket he has purposely been wrapped in every time since the first time so that it didn’t get all over me. poop!) while on the plane. This is what we like to call a blowout, resulting in the need for a full outfit change. Therefore, bring an extra onesie or two and also a few of those little baggies (grab a handful at your local dog park) to put stinky clothes in, stinky blankets in, your stinky clothes in, maybe even the whole plane seat. You can also buy these baggies in the baby section of most stores.
  4. Relating to #3, bring an extra shirt for you too. Nobody wants to smell like spit up or poop during a trans-america flight.
  5. Changing his/her diaper right before you board helps with this too. Leaves more room for that big bowel movement. My best guess is the change in pressure…why else would he do this to me every time we are stuck, seat-belted in to a cramped metal tube hurtling through the sky?
  6. Always take the stroller and carseat all the way to the gate and gate check it in case of delays and things. It is a bit cumbersome when going through security but TSA has been helpful more often than not and it was really nice to be able to stroll #cavebaby around when our redeye was delayed. I forgot my stroller this last trip and lugging my chunk-a-munk through the airport was quite the strength-building exercise.
  7. When you get to the gate and check in (to get the gate check tags for the stroller and carseat), ask if they have any extra seats (or if the flight is full). If they do, you can ask if you can have the seat for your carseat. This was a LIFESAVER on our red eyes because he slept in his carseat the whole flight. I haven’t done this on the shorter flights except once or twice because it is honestly probably just easier to hold him for an hour or two than lug the carseat through the narrow aisle of the plane.
  8. If there are three seats on each side, seat yourselves in the aisle and window towards the back of the plane in hopes that no one will take the middle seat. If they do, then you have a nice surprise for them when you offer them the aisle or window, depending on your preference. We also sit in the back because more families tend to sit back there, but my experience has been that changing tables are in the front lavatory in a plane. They obviously didn’t consult the moms and dads with that design. dumb.
  9. If you don’t have your babies SS card or birth certificate yet, you can use vaccination records as ID. You need ID for all passengers, even if you didn’t purchase a seat for your infant.
  10. You can bring bottles of milk and/or formula that are over 3oz through security. Just declare them so they are aware.
  11. If you can, stay calm, cool and collected. Babies pick up on our anxiety. If you assume the flight is gonna go well, it just might :) And if it doesn’t, well, embrace the journey. It’ll make a great story to tell the grandkids one day.

That’s all folks! If you have advice to add, I would love to hear it! In seven months, #cavebaby has been on two red eyes and 6+ other flights and I need all the advice I can get. Just don’t be offended if I don’t follow it ;)